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Everyone has Habits they would benefit from breaking

maybe that someone is You?

I'm thinking of what habits I'd like to break

and make a better tomorrow.

Habits can be like giants to most of us, hard to overcome. Many have started regimes in their Quest to get somewhere with this problem that seem to have more relevance Today more than any time in history it seems. Because these days, so much is expected of us….on the work scene….on the social scene….eyes are towards how we perform, as it were. We live in a day where self-acceptance is important – how one feels about oneself. If we’ve mastered this, we can handle some critique that comes our way….be it not meeting someone’s Personal standards or expectations, by glance or comments or reports. We need to be happy with the one we live with (that’s us) to function at our best and relate well with those around us, at home and when we go out. When we’re happy with ourselves we can face the day so much better.

We really can.

IT IS OF VITAL IMPORTANCE TO FOCUS ON WHO YOU ARE BECOMING

THAN WHO YOU DON'T WANT TO BE

Some of the stress we face these days has to do with an underlying dislike for ourselves as much as a disliking for anyone else. You know what they say about our own worst enemy? That’s so TRUE…. especially when it comes to the habits we often develop. They are as a result of choice, most times. We made a decision, whether we were particularly conscious of it or not.

There are two things to remember in our Quest for Breaking Habits; It was decisions that got us into them and it is decisions that will get us out of them. It was repetition that caused them to gain power and it is repetition that will weaken that power. Let me explain what I mean. Once we choose to do something, it is the repetition of doing that,That made it gain strength – it was a gradual process, over time, not instant, so to speak. So once we choose not to do something, it is repetition of not doing it,

over time, that will bring results.  

Neuroscientists agree that it takes 21 days for our brain to break the cycle of a habit – especially if It is deeply entrenched, it may take a few more weeks. We should see a difference by 3 weeks though.

The longer we stay at it, the easier it gets. 

If it’s drugs or alcohol, please seek professional help to dry out and don’t settle for methadone – that some medical clinics recommend – because it is a poor substitute with nasty consequences – very additive! There are a few Herbs and Nutrients that can help you have a happier disposition and some small lifestyle techniques. At present, I am making a website with an innovative approach, that will make a difference for a lot of people. It is called Natural Mood Levels.It is a website for everyone because everyone would like to be happy or happier. 

THERE IS A SECRET I KNOW THAT HELPS US TO LOOSE HABITS EASIER THAN JUST REFRAINING FROM THEM…..AND THAT’S THE DISPLACEMENT PRINCIPLE….WHERE YOU REPLACE A NOT SO GOOD HABIT WITH A GOOD HABIT; AN UNHEALTHY ONE WITH A HEALTHY ONE.  

Did you hear about the Sand Castle? 

It is not so much what you try not to do but what you do in it’s place that works and makes you Free. Water in the MOAT of a Sandcastle can go round in the same direction, but if you make a new channel, the water will flow in a NEW direction. A fantastic young preacher gave this illustration some years ago in a short course called Creative Living and I think it deserves mentioning. Many have found it to be beneficial.

Someone-else said to me once

“Spend so many minutes tidying up papers or clothes whatever each day with a goal to achieve results by the end of a day or a week – no matter how small” – see yourself laugh at the end of it!

Something I discovered once

If you leave whatever you’re at, take a timer with you into another room and set yourself to a tidy-up session with some music on that you enjoy__ you may find yourself putting the timer onin relays like I did. “ENCORE, ENCORE….!” Oh that satisfaction afterwards. If one round is enough for you 15-20 mins or 40-50 mins…..that’s OK….have another round the next day….and DO ENJOY! You will feel so much Better.

MORE COMING!

I have been writing an article on procrastination today for the above mentioned website.You know,

that Habits and Putting things Off are common problems for 90% of us.You may like to read

the following article. 

Winning against Procrastination

I look forward to completing this Page for you. You don’t need information overload. What you need is a few simple principle sand run with that. Do we really need all the information we seek out? Maybe we are failing to put into practice some things that meant something to us and in order to get more information (by an author or speaker) we lose track of what we already found – we could run with. If we put those things into practice, we would not forget them so quickly. Knowledge we put into practice becomes true knowledge - we could be well on the way to our own story if we did not have such a restless appetite for information. My advice to you is don’t wait until you fully grasp something before you do it – it’s when you actually try that principle you found that you start to grasp it. And don’t try to take in too much at once, you are sure to be overwhelmed. Keep things simple – that’s the best way! 

LIFE BEGINS TODAY

Can't Stop Cigarettes? Don't Despair!

New Routines

Tobacco users aren’t just addicted to smoking or chewing; they’re also habitually addicted to the physical act of using tobacco products. Over time, smoking or chewing becomes a part of your daily routine or coping mechanism. Certain activities, routines or feelings “trigger” the urge to smoke or chew. Triggers can be habitual daily activities, such as a morning cup of coffee or hanging out with a certain group of friends. Triggers can also be feelings and emotions, such as stress or unhappiness. Even certain times of the day can be triggers. Triggers can be a huge barrier to quitting tobacco. In order to quit successfully, you need to first determine what “triggers” you to smoke or dip. With practice, you can overcome your triggers. Eventually, it becomes easier to separate triggers and tobacco, and then finally quit for good. Here are some proven tips to help you identify and beat your triggers:

Step 1 Figure out what your triggers are by keeping a list of when you have the urge to smoke or dip.

Step 2 Make a list of the places where you would normally smoke. 

Step 3 Come up with alternate ways you can approach an activity or emotion. Here are some examples.

Routine Can Be as Addictive as Nicotine

Coffee

  • When you’re first trying to quit smoking, wait until you finish your coffee to have a cigarette. Over the next few days, gradually increase the amount of time between finishing your coffee and having a cigarette. Eventually, with enough time between the coffee and the cigarette, you’ll discover that you can drink coffee without smoking.
  • Do something else while drinking coffee, such as reading the paper or making a grocery list.
  • Change the time or location where you have your coffee.

Alcohol

  • When you’re first trying to quit smoking, don’t light up while you drink. Wait to smoke until after you’ve finished your drink. Begin gradually increasing the amount of time between finishing your drink and smoking.
  • Choose a smoke-free bar or restaurant for happy hour.
  • Try a different drink or switch to nonalcoholic beverages for a short while.
  • Engage in another activity to keep your hands busy while drinking, like playing darts or billiards.

Meals

  • When you’re first trying to quit smoking, don’t smoke directly after a meal. Wait a few minutes and then gradually increase the amount of time between your meal and cigarette.
  • Keep your mind and hands busy after a meal: help with the dishes, walk the dog, play cards, check email, etc.
  • Brush your teeth or chew gum directly after meals.

Driving

  • When you’re first trying to quit smoking, don’t light up the moment the key is in the ignition – wait a few minutes. Over time, increase the amount of time between starting the car and smoking.
  • Put your cigarettes in your purse or briefcase and then keep that in the back seat or trunk, making your cigarettes difficult to reach.
  • Make a playlist for your drive and encourage yourself not to smoke while that playlist is on. Eventually, the ride will be over before you have the chance to light up a cigarette.

Stress

  • Over time, your body has learned that stress creates the need to smoke or chew. Remember that your body is craving nicotine and is producing its own stress. Having a cigarette or chew is only relieving the stress your body is artificially creating.
  • During stressful moments, give yourself five minutes to take deep breadths and think of something calm, other than smoking. By not smoking at the very first sign of stress, you’ll begin to break the connection between stress and smoking.
  • Go for a walk instead of smoking.
  • Exercise isn’t just good for the body; it’s good for the mind. Exercise increases the production of endorphins, which boost your mood.
  • Call a loved one who’s supporting you in quitting and talk through a stressful situation.
  • Decrease morning stress by preparing the day before: make lunches ahead of time, prepare the coffeemaker and choose an outfit.
  • Avoid places where you would often take smoke breaks.

Friends That Smoke

  • Alert your friends – smokers and nonsmokers – of your attempt to quit smoking and ask for their support. You may even help your friends decide to quit as well.
  • Arrange to meet up with friends at smoke-free places, such as a friend’s home or a restaurant.
  • Make your home a smoke-free zone.

Boredom

  • Call or text a friend or loved one.
  • Tackle chores such as laundry, dusting or vacuuming. When you’re done, you will have a clean home and will have defeated a craving.
  • Pick up a hobby that keeps your hands busy, like crossword puzzles, knitting or chess.
  • Exercise or run errands.
  • Play a quick game on your phone or computer.

Other Help Pages

SELF-IMPROVEMENTS ARE A GOOD THING AND NOT EVERYONE NEEDS A COACH – THERE ARE SO MANY RESOURCES AVAILABLE THESE DAYS. MAKE SURE THEY ARE BALANCED, THERE’S SO MUCH RELIGIOUS AND NEW AGE MATERIAL OUT THERE. I DO SUBSCRIBE TO CHRISTIAN ETHICS UNTAINTED. MUCH OF MY SUCCESS WITH WEBSITES IS DUE TO CERTAIN GIFTINGS AND A DESIRE TO MAKE SOMEONE’S DAY HAPPY AND PEACEFUL (Inspirational Sites) OR BENEFICIAL (Health Sites). JESUS WITHOUT COMPLICATIONS CAN ONLY MAKE YOU SANE BUT GOD/JESUS WITH RELIGION OR NEW AGE CAN MAKE THE BEST OF PEOPLE MIXED UP.

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